Who stole the security of old people
On the morning of June 29, I went to Xiaxudian Village, Zhiying Town, Yongkang City to interview the fire accident. The owner of the house was an old man named Ye Xiaomei.
When the scene arrived, the fire had been extinguished. Before the heavy smoke collapsed, Ye Xiaomei frowned, squatted on the ground without a word, and cut out the quilts that had already been burned with scissors.There are no melting coins.
For a long while, she suddenly stood up and said, “There is still a stack of banknotes in the iron box upstairs”, and she was about to rush into the house.
The neighbor next to her quickly stopped her and said, “It’s useless. Such a big fire, the banknotes are left in the iron box, and they must be gone.
“No, no, the savings of a lifetime burned to ashes.
“When the 64-year-old was holding a pile of burnt banknotes in tears, and whispered and desperately called the word” lost, “the people present were all sad.
The villagers said that Ye Xiaomei usually cleans the garbage in the village and pays 1200 yuan per month. She also collects waste.
She is very frugal. She is reluctant to buy 5 cents of popsicles in summer and does not turn on the lights of home appliances at night.
The burnt money was pulled from her teeth by a cent.
”It is estimated that there are 40,000 to 50,000, put in millet and tucked under the bed.
No one knows how much, she never tells us.
“Ye Xiaomei’s son said helplessly,” she was asked to deposit money in the bank long ago, she said she could not read, could not remember the password, and was unwilling to save it.
I told her to remember the password, and she refused.
I also said that I opened the password and told a few children separately, so that no one could take it, and she was still unwilling.
The point is not to believe us.
“After listening to this passage, the fire itself seems to have become somewhat small.
Why is the old man reluctant to deposit money in the bank?
Why doesn’t she trust her children?
What is reflected in this is still the old-fashioned talk about old people’s consciousness of worrying about “the old has nothing to support”?
During the interview, the reporter found that, like Ye Xiaomei, it is still not a minority to hide money at home.
Why do older people feel insecure?
How to improve the sense of security of the elderly?
Depositing the bank, afraid that after death, Chen Wangfu, who lives in the eastern part of Yongkang City, is 78 years old this year. His 72-year-old wife has a paralysis of the lower limbs and a slight stroke, which is very inconvenient.
Chen Wangfu’s physical condition is also not good, and his heart disease is serious. According to himself, the doctor said that he could give up at any time.
“In case I leave, the most reassuring thing is my wife.
“When talking, Chen Wangfu’s face weighed.
Chen Wangfu opened a store in his early years and had a savings in his hand. Since the doctor gave him a critical illness notice, Chen Wangfu took all the money originally stored in the bank and locked it in the opening in his home.The insurance money is also stored together.
He said that the money was reserved for his wife’s retirement.
Chen Wangfu explained that the money was no longer stored in the bank: “I have seen similar reports in the media before. An old man died suddenly and his family wanted to get back the money in the bank. The bank knew that it needed a marriage certificate.The procedure for death certificate and notarization of property is very complicated.
She couldn’t remember the old woman’s password.
It would be better to leave it at home and save her from going out to pick it up.
“I brought 3000 yuan with me and I lost it all.” I was afraid of being stolen at home, and I lost it on my body. I really don’t know what to do.
Speaking of a loss of money last year, Yu Apo from Jiangnan Street in Yongkang City still can’t help but pat her thighs.
Yu Apo’s village is a remote small village. Young people are heading to the city. Only some elderly people are left in the village.
Last summer, the number of people who went to the village for summer heat increased. Seeing that the village was lively, the elderly were very happy.
However, the family lost money too.
This time, Yu Apo was unavoidably a little flustered.
”At that time, my daughter in foreign business came back to see me, and gave me 3,000 yuan. What if it was stolen?So, Mrs. Yu carefully wrapped the money with a handkerchief, no matter where she went up or planting land, where she went, where she slept under the pillow at night, and touched it by hand at midnight.
One time when the market was crowded, Yu Apo bought two bags full of things, one bag in one hand.
When I got home, wiped my sweat, and touched the bag of money, I couldn’t find it anymore.
“I don’t know if it was dropped or stolen by a pickpocket.
“Grandma Yu sighed.
More than half of the elderly’s desire for security survey data shows that continuously, under the influence of multiple factors such as physical, psychological and social factors, more than 50% of the elderly lack security.
In interviews with more than 20 elderly people, more than half of them expressed a desire for security, of which rural elderly accounted for a very large proportion.
Physiologically, the elderly are afraid of getting sick; in life, the elderly are afraid of spending money; psychologically, the elderly are afraid of being fooled . According to the survey, the long-term psychological problems mainly involve child education, intergenerational education, relationship between mother-in-law, and remarriage.
Aunt Zhang lived in her son’s house in the city, and a babysitter was hired in the house.
In Aunty Zhang’s own words, after struggling to hit, she couldn’t take it easy, so she quit her nanny to cook and cook for herself, but her daughter-in-law thought her food was unpalatable and complained.
The son was tired of fighting with his mother-in-law and blamed her for dismissing the nanny.
Aunt Zhang suddenly felt like she was a superfluous person. She could not help but she was disgusted. She was very frustrated and chilling.
In this regard, psychologists suggest that the elderly should adjust their cognition and behavior, make a reasonable assessment and positioning of their own value, and have a good grasp of even their favorite things.
The elderly have the right to change their attitudes to life, establish a correct outlook on health, treat aging objectively, actively communicate with others, and live a full, happy, and happy old age.
Children should be more secure in Yongkang Welfare Home. The 82-year-old Li Yinzheng said that after she lived in the home last November, she took back all the money on the bank card and placed it in her children’s custody.
“I didn’t want to come. I was worried that my savings were not enough to spend here, but they all advised me that living in the country is inconvenient. They can come to see me at any time in the city. I don’t have to worry about money.
Li Yinzhang said with a smile, her children were very busy, but she took a day a week and came to see her with fruits, biscuits and nutrition products, which made her feel very happy and comforted.
Li Yinxun, who is good at investing, still has some money to borrow, and she also gives it to her children.
If the children are filial, and they can allow parents to hand over the pension money to their hands, then Chen Wangfu will not have to take out the money in the bank after he left, and Yu Apo’s thousands of dollars will not be lost.
Through many of the above cases, it is not difficult to find that the most important thing about the elderly’s lack of security comes from their children.
Do my duty to support, communicate with my parents, and listen to their demands.
Caring for the elderly does not give them the greatest satisfaction in material terms. As long as one more phone call, one more greeting, and one more smiley face will not cause parents to have unnecessary or unnecessary negative psychology, the spiritual comfort can be exerted to the maximum extent.It adds to the sense of security of the elderly.